Often the men who conform to the model of toxic masculinity do so because they lacked any other models to emulate. This does not abnegate their responsibility for their manner of being. But it may allow for at least an understanding of how they arrived at their position. It may be that such understanding can then be extended to those who practice toxic masculinity. They may see what harm they are doing, what harm they have done, and that other modalities of masculinity exist. By refusing to at least understand them, we reject them outright as human beings, which may only cause a further reactionary response. That will not help them, and will only increase our own irresolvable anger.